As I’ve gotten older, or should I say wiser ( LOL ), I’ve learned that it’s much easier to forgive and forget, rather than hate and resent friends and family. If you’ve ever experienced some sort of disagreement with a person close to you, and instead of talking things out you let it build and build to the point that the stress actually starts to effect your body, then you know what I’m talking about.
I’ll be the first to admit that I use to hold onto anger and resentment for long periods of time. Now a days I’ve gotten better at getting to the root of problem and working through it, but seriously, I use to hold onto so much stress that my health would take a beating. People forget how much of an effect stress can actually have on the human body. Common ailments from stress include back pain, headaches, rashes, panic attacks, difficulties breathing, loss of sex drive, cancer and much more. As you can see, stress can really takes it’s toll on the body and should be avoided as much as possible.
We all need to focus on the joy that our friends and family members bring us. Our true friends will always support you through thick and thin. Our closest family members will always love you unconditionally, no matter what. So why argue and throw so much anger towards one another? Trust me, it’s not worth it.
Everybody has the entitlement to their own opinion. Everybody has the entitlement to their own beliefs. It’s what we do with those opinions and beliefs that count. I’m not going to push my beliefs on anybody or try to persuade anyone into letting go of what they believe in just to get them on my side. That would go completely against the laws of the universe. To get people, in a negative manner, to do things for the benefit of yourself is a violation of The Law of Allowing. You have to except people for who they are and treat them as you would want to be treated. To be able to believe in what you want, or have your own opinion about things is what makes all of us unique. It’s completely OK to agree to disagree with somebody, but to try and force your beliefs on somebody or disrespect them because they have a different opinion is wrong.
From here on out, if you have had issues in the past with a family member or friend, or are going through some sort of issue currently, try to be civil about the disagreement. Try to see things from their angle. That doesn’t mean that you have to agree with them, but maybe it will give more insight to where they are coming from. Also, it’s very important for the other person to do the same thing. Try to calmly explain that it’s not OK for them to force their opinions or beliefs on you and that they should try to see things from your side. Explain to them that they don’t have to agree with you either but you do expect them to respect your beliefs as well. If for any reason the other person cannot communicate in a peaceful manner then it’s in your best interest to avoid the relationship, or at least until that person doesn’t bring you stress and anger any more. Hopefully down the road that person will have a moment of reflection and realize that they need to make some changes for the better.
When it comes to our family and friends, whether we agree on the same things or not, respect and love should always be the most important factors. We’re all unique individuals with different views on a wide variety of topics and that’s what makes us different from one another. I believe that it would probably be boring if we all agreed on the same things! Remember that stress can play a huge role in your daily health too! It’s not worth several trips to the doctors or constantly being on medication from an issue that could of been resolved with peace, respect and love…..am I right?
From now on, remember why you love the person or why you consider that person a best friend before the issue escalates further. Try to see things form each others point of view and show respect for one another. When it comes down to it, disagreements are just words and nothing more than words. But love….love is everlasting and is the strongest emotion in the universe. Start loving and stop hating and your world will be a much happier place for yourself and your family and friends.